Category: Dating and Relationships
I just wanted people's oppinion on this. I know that some people don't get lonely being single. Some people are just fine with having no one and being able to flirt all they want. But for those of you who's like me, do you get lonely being single? It's not that I'm looking since I just got out of a relationship, but not having many people to talk to is kindda lonely. So I was just wondering if I'm the only one out there who does.
Probably not. I also get lonely at times, since I have been single for the most part, so it can be tuff at times. Just try to do other things that make you happy and not think about it too much. For me, I rather be alone than be with whoever comes along, so this is helping me a bit when I feel this way.
Yes, I'd rather be alone than have someone I don't get along with or don't feel is right for me. That's the problem is not having enough to do. I'm trying to look for a job and stuff, so if I find one that'll help a lot. So I guess we'll see what happens.
I am recently divorced after 10 years of marriage with 3 children under 8. It is very hard being alone. I really liked being in a relationship for the friendship as well as the other variables of being in a relationship. I know that there will be waves of up and downs when you are alone or when you are in a relationship. I believe this World has made it too easy to get divorced during the down times.
Yes it is good to have companionship, and if the companion is good for you then you will not be lonely. It is also possible to be lonely in a relationship. I don't get lonely being single, but I am alone at times. Smile. Being comfortable with yourself, and doing thins on your own is the best fix for loneliness, not settleing for just anyone. Smile. Get a hobby, a passion and through that passion you might find a like minded person. Dating seems to be a good choice for me as well. You go out with many different people until you find someone that is special. I am speaking of dinners, maybe dancing, or a walk. Hooking up with the first person that seems interested is limiting in a way. Once you enjoy the company, conversation, or calls of several people the worst that can come out of it is you have many friends, and that specil one will follow. Smile.
Being married then becoming single again is difficult as well, but it is better then being unhappy after the pain goes away.
Just my thoughts.
Peace.
Oh I agree with what you're saying. I feel the same way. I wouldn't just go looking for someone, and dating the first person I see. There has to be good communication, especially if it's a long distance relationship. There has to be common interests, maybe not everything, but some so both people like doing some of the same things together. And I deffinitly agree with friends first before dating. It's just dum to go looking and then find someone and then realize you aren't a good match. I did that before when I was younger, but I guess I fell in love too fast and that was my own fault, so i know not to do that again lol. But I know what I'm looking for in someone, and I know I'll find it someday, I'm just going to give it time, and see what happens down the road. And yes, I think after being married, that would be harder than just dating someone for a long time. You think when you get married you'll spend the rest of your life with someone, and sometimes, it doesn't turn out that way. The divorce rate has gone up so much in the last few years, and you just never know what's gonna happen, so it's sad. But I do hope that anyone who's single out there, finds what they're looking for, especially if you want it to be someone special and possibly a life long partner.
If you get lonely when you're single, there's always the friends with benefits approach. But if you're not into that, it can get lonely sometimes. My advice is to just try to interact with the friends you do have as much as possible. Or just throw yourself into a hobby or something that is a true passion of yours.
Cam
well. Now. I've been single from time to time and I gotta say, it's not fun. Mainly for me being single means missing the taking care of a girl/helping a girl thing. I miss not being able to help someone out and comfort them if need be and just... be there and hopefully a good person in their life. That's what I like about relationships.
But then again, now that I'm not single and have been dating for 3 months... I find that I need at least an hour of alone time. Usually when my girlfriend goes to sleep and we're not texting I simply go and be online/think for a few more hours. I think that's what I'll miss the most after marige. Privacy to think and do things alone. ga.
I hate being single. I dkon't like it becuz most of my friends rae in a relationship and it makes me feel so alone and left out.
I'm sorry but i'm one of those people who knows i can do good all by myself. I don't want or need anyone else cramping my style right now! Besides, being in a committed relationship makes me feel annoyed with the other person and it also makes me feel trapped! Relationships may be for other people, but being single is the way to go for me!
Ok that's fine. Everyone is different. I guess I just like being in a committed relationship is how I am since I was a teenager I knew I wanted to be with someone who would treat me right and respect me, and me them to. But everyone is different. Like I said in my first post, people are ok being single, and others aren't. But I have friends, and I'm looking at joining a new church at some point, and working on my braille proofreading, so I'll have something to do instead of sit around all day or just take the dog for a walk lol. I think if it wasn't for nice people on communities like this I'd go crazy. Thank God for friends I say. They really help down that long stretch.
I felt lonely after my divorce and that was at about 8 years before. and after a little while, I got used to it. but nowadays, after my brother's death, on 14th may, 2009, I feel too much lonely again.
and That's the reason I'm spending mmost the time with my computer/internet/friends/chats. this makes me fluffy or chubby. but keeps me engaged and not to think of my loneliness.
I live by myself. most the indians live with their parents as a joined family even after marriage, But I don't like that way.
And, as per the friends with benefits thing, I never! ever! could accept it.
I'll go for a relationship, only if I get a right partner who could accept me who I am and who is willing to go for a long term relationship. I honestly hate FWB, one night stands and short term relationships.
those are ...!! I'd rather be a happy single instead of having those things.
Raaj.
It's better to be single than in a relationship with someone who is a psychological mess. And people who say they want to change? Well, it's been my experience that those who want to change typically don't, and also don't expect to change anyone. If you don't love what you see now, don't bother. That said, sometimes it's just better to be single depending on what you are looking for. In the end, being committed to someone who might or might not become who you like is a waste of time and a risk at best.
Then there is the other angle. If you know you don't like being single, then it's best to play the field so to speak until you find the right one for you. The only issue with that is putting forth too much too fast. I actually know I don't like being single, and this has been the approach I have taken to relationships.
I agree with Raj in that the fwb thing isn't for me, ever.
I have to say I agree with almost all of you except Tilly, and Tilly, there's nothing wrong with your approach for your life either. It's not worth the stress and pain of a relationship where the person's a mess all the time, or where there is mistrust, or too much distance without the possability of seeing one another. I've had a number of relationships over the years that were long distance, and while the majority of hem were with people who I definately don't regret, a part of me also feels I missed out on having someone close by to share the little things with. My philosophy is also friends before anything else. If you're not my friend, you can't be anything more intimate to me. And I've done the friends with benafits thing a few times, only to learn that while it's nice for that brief moment in which it happens, in the end it really just serves to make me more lonely because it's the physical without any sort of commitment or even feelings. And that goes even more for friends with sex benafits. Screwed up once with having sex with someone I didn't truely care about as any more than a riend, and promised myself never ever again.
all I have to say here is I agree with ashley but then again I want someone close and who will be commited. I don't have any problems with long distance stuff but stil. I had a relationship for 3 years and that worked out well. It must've if i could keep it for that long.
What I did tuesday, I have second thoughts about but not sure about it really. if that person wanted to talk to me about it I'm sure it could be arranged but I am not doing anything as of now for relationship stuff. I'm waiting for someone to find me this time. If xs' come back to my door and ask for me some more well, I'll consider it and ponder on it before taking them up on it.
I don't mind being single but I enjoy having someone with me. I like friends who are girls of course, I have lots of the if u ever looked me up on facebook. I just want someone who will stay with me and not play me.
time will tell me with me, and as myfriend marissa said one day, I am a very undecied person. I am, cause I don't think sometimes.
sorry to go off topic but yeah. I'm done now.
sometimes i think i'm too selfish to be in any relationship, hense i'm single again. I won't lie, right now it's all about me, me, me. When i'm over this phase or until i managed to find someone who knocks the the need to be selfish out of me so bad that i didn't even know what happened, then hey. lol
Long distance can only work for so long. You need to have an end to it, or it'll fall apart. Besides, what good is having a permanent long distance relationship? If you care about each other enough, one would assume that both parties involved would want the distance to end.
For me, I dont mind being single. I mean obviously I do get lonely a lot, but that's because I am an only child and I dont know what to do with myself. I feel that if someone wants a relationship with me, then they have to be committed, and that's all i want. I dont care if i'm single or taken, the dedication is what gets me
i have my moments i get lonely, but then other times i'm glad for being single. it depends all how you look at it. i'd rather be single than been in a terrible relationship. some have said i'm too picky but that's just me
being single is ok for now, I have no problem with it. but then again, I see so menny people around me in a couple, and the feeling of being left out creaps up again. Sure, it would be nice to have someone to care for, but that time will come someday.
That's me as well. I do get lonely sometimes. I can handle the friends with benefits thing too, if need be. There are times when I do wish I had someone, but at least by being single, I don't have to worry about someone playing with my heart.
I sometimes wish I was with someone, mainly during holidays or when I see a happy couple, but I don't want to be with someone just to be with someone or be in a relationship that would probably not work out in the long-term. So while I sometimes get lonely being single, I also don't mind it. I'd rather be single than be in a relationship that is bad or will not work out.
it get lonely being single im not now single im married but when the person ur married to works 10 hours 4 days a week it gets lonely then to sometimes i feel like im single and im not
Sometimes, for a brief second, I miss not having a girlfriend...but then I think "Hey, I'm single!" And I'm fine with that.
Hmmm, ya know? I think I've just about resigned myself to the fact that what I'm looking for simply does not exist.
You know. When i'm all alone, sitting in the house on an evening off, and my mind starts to wonder. It does get to me. I would like to spend time, and express how I feel with that certain person. One day. Hopefuly. One day.
I agree with post 23.
Haven't been with anyone in about three years, so yeah, gets depressing at times...